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A shopfront on the street, at the height of the animals

Pets

Co-regulating with the animals we live with, and a pet flap to every room on the street with animals in it.

The far wall of a room at the end of the day, seen from down on the floor. Through its one low window the sky is going, pale gold at the bottom over the dark of the trees and blue above. The lamp in the corner is off, and its switch lies on the floor where nobody has reached for it. Pet flaps are set into the wall along the skirting board, each a different size. On the rug a dog is asleep, curled up, and a cat has curled up beside the dog; a rabbit is loafing by the skirting board. Nothing in the room moves.

This room is the floor at the end of the day. The dog is asleep on the rug, the cat has curled up beside the dog, a rabbit is loafing by the skirting board, and the light in the window is going. Nobody has switched the lamp on, because getting up would mean moving somebody, and nobody wants to. That is the whole room: being still with an animal until you are as settled as they are.

Its channel on the CB is for your animals: pictures, stories, worries and questions, the ones who are gone, and the ones still waiting at the shelters. Sign on and tune the radio to This room while you are in here, or open Pets on the chat page, under Community. If you are not on the CB yet, the Community Center says how to get an invite. Our campfires have always said the same thing:

Come as you are. Bring your pets, your fidgets, your safe snacks.

Co-regulation, and why it is not only people

Co-regulation is how one nervous system steadies another. Our entry for it opens with Trauma Geek’s definition:

Co-regulation is when we complete the stress cycle with the support of a safe enough person.

Trauma Geek, The Neuroscience of Community, read on our Co-regulation entry

Most of what gets written about it is about people: a parent and a baby, a teacher and a child, a friend who sits with you while it passes. It is not only people. Mammals do it with each other, with their own kind and with other kinds, and the lines our Polyvagal Theory entry quotes say so in as many words:

Co-regulation (the subconscious process of syncing up with a coherent nervous system) is the strongest safety cue for mammals.

NDConnection, A neurodiversity paradigm lens on polyvagal theory, read on our Polyvagal Theory entry

The polyvagal understanding of the nervous system seems to be observable in all humans, and all mammals for that matter, including cats, dogs, and horses.

NDConnection, A neurodiversity paradigm lens on polyvagal theory, read on our Polyvagal Theory entry

The same definition says what a safe enough person is like:

A safe enough person is a person in safe & social mode. They have deep belly breathing, expressive face, soft gaze, calm heart rate, prosodic voice, and the ability to enjoy safe touch or closeness.

Trauma Geek, The Neuroscience of Community, read on our Co-regulation entry

Leave out the face and the voice, and that is a dog asleep against your legs, or a cat purring on your chest: breathing slow and deep, eyes half shut, heart steady, and glad of you close. Lie still beside that for long enough and your own body starts to keep time with it.

Why it matters so much to so many Autistic people

For a lot of Autistic people an animal is the easiest company there is, and the most settling. An animal does not want eye contact or small talk, does not take a stim for something wrong with you, and never needs anybody to mask. It says plainly what it wants, its day has the same shape every day, and you can be with it without doing anything at all.

Being with somebody does not have to mean doing something together, or even being in the same room. Helen Edgar writes about co-regulating in ways that suit each person’s physical, social and sensory needs:

For example, joining an online game, sharing music in a chat room or knowing you are each happy being in your own dens/spaces in your house can all be meaningful ways of co-regulating.

Helen Edgar, Neurodivergent Co-Regulation on Autistic Realms, read on our Co-regulation entry

A cat asleep in the next room counts. So does a dog who follows you from room to room and lies down wherever you stop, which our Body Doubling entry has a word for, and which leaves room for a pet:

A “body double” (n.) is a person or even pet who is present with us while we work.

From the video What is a “body double,” and how does it help?, read on our Body Doubling entry

An animal is sensory company too. A dog leaning its whole weight on your legs is deep pressure, stroking fur is a stim, and a purr is a sound with no words in it to work out. Our Seeds of Cope puts co-regulation in its cope map, among what helps when fear, shame or trauma comes up, and our Glimmers entry has this among the small moments that bring peace, joy or connection:

Watching your pet’s excitement over something small

Julie Bjelland, Finding Light in the Dark: The Power of Glimmers, read on our Glimmers entry

And for everybody else

It is not only Autistic people. Plenty of people talk to the dog when they cannot talk to anybody, get up in the morning because the cat wants feeding, and go outside because the dog does. People have lived alongside animals for far longer than anybody has been writing it down, and a body that settles with a warm animal against it is one of the oldest kinds of company there is.

Not everybody can live with an animal: allergies, rent, money, a body that cannot manage the walks, or an animal who died and is still missed. The animals on this street need none of that. Anybody can visit them, nothing about them costs anything, and none of them will ever need walking at six in the morning.

And a dog in a harness may be working. Our Event Access Guide passes on Midwest FurFest’s line about that:

Do not pet, feed, or otherwise distract a service dog. Please approach their handler before interacting.

Pet flaps along the skirting board

Every room on the street with animals in it has a pet flap here, set into the skirting board at the height of whoever uses it. They are this room’s flaps, drawn in its dusk, and each one opens onto a room that is its own world. Go through any of them; the floor will still be here when you come back, and so will everybody asleep on it.

Your own animals on the street

What is not on the floor

Who reads the channel, and for how long

Whose this is

Job marker — a collar tag come off on the floor by the skirting board, with a paw stamped on it

You have found a job marker. The Adventurer’s Guild is a shopfront on the street, and it posts jobs that send you round these rooms. Take the code below to its board and that job is done. Nothing here is scored, nothing expires, and one is a perfectly good number of jobs to do.

The job: Who it is strongest for

Before the code: Co-regulation is the strongest safety cue for which animals, in the line our Polyvagal Theory entry quotes?

Hint 1

It is in the first quotation after the paragraph that says it is not only people.

Hint 2

Cats, dogs, horses and people are all one.

Last hint

Mammals.

Give me the answer

The answer is Mammals. The line our Polyvagal Theory entry quotes says co-regulation, the subconscious process of syncing up with a coherent nervous system, is the strongest safety cue for mammals, and the next one says that includes cats, dogs and horses.

Taking the answer is a real way through this, not a lesser one. Nothing is watching and nothing is written down.

Quest code: COLLARTAG

Hand it in at the Adventurer’s Guild →

HOW LOUD DO YOU WANT IT?

Starts wherever your device says. Nothing moves, flashes, or plays until you say so — and on this floor nothing moves at any setting, MAX GLITTER included, because everybody is asleep.